Dating In The Cyber Age Part ll

With all of us “single folks” feeling a little extra “alone”, with recent events, I thought now may just be the right time for part two of our article on dating in the Cyber Age.

First let’s review some of the basic rules.

· Every rule of dating and safety in the real world applies to the Cyber world.

· A little safety can go a long way.

· Don’t give too much “personal” information too soon. Like your home address, etc.

· In short, a little paranoia can be a healthy thing

That said, let’s get back to the subject of dating.

I implore everyone reading this, not to let your feelings of needing someone in your life, blind your common sense.

It never pays to have just “anyone” in your life because it’s better than being alone. No one has ever had to go through the relationship from hell, or had to find a way to drop the psycho in their life , because they were alone.

Use your time “alone” to be good to yourself. Do the things you like. Spend the time with friends. Go have some fun.

Now for meeting someone on line: I found the Cyber world to be the same as the real world, with all the flakes and all the real folks. The online personals really are the same as the ads in the local paper. The only difference is that the “OnLine” ads have a lot more information and there are a lot more of them.

Information overload??????

With millions of online ads it’s easy to feel like you’re in overload. How can you possibly look at all of those ads?

You don’t have to. The Cyber sites will help you filter them down. By things like age range. Location. Kids or no kids. Smoking or non-smoking, and so on.

Feel free to be picky. Or at least on the things that matter to you. Remember you are not going to find the perfect person. They do not exist. And just for the record you’re not perfect either. The thing to look for is someone with the important things in common with you.

Important? Yes, but only you know what’s important to you. What you will and will not accept. If you don’t know, you had better start making that list right know.

We should also talk about behavior. A dating relationship is much like a business relationship. It works best with honesty and mutual respect. Read up on some of our NetWorking articles for more tips.

So, does this Cyber thing work. Yes. And it is a small world. I meet a fair number of folks, some more real than others. I also met one lady that proved it was a small world. We met online, then for coffee. In talking we discovered we had a very good friend in common.

You don’t always get what you think....

In checking out the “Singles” event listings in the local paper, I found some interesting and some ... Well amusing.

Amusing...?

I kid you not “An event for Wealthy Men and their Woman Admirers”.... Sounded like a good place to find a woman to love me for me... Oh, I mean love me for my money.

Others are just not as claimed

I went to one advertised as a singles dance. The truth. It was at a local hotel/restaurant. The musician that plays in the bar runs the ad to get folks into the bar. The Hotel had no idea about the ad. The majority of the folks were married vacationers, just hanging out in the bar.

Or the ones that front for a dating service. To go into the dance you have to join. They don’t tell you that until you show up. They promise you lots of lovely partners inside. No, you can’t look in until you join and pay that fee. No, thanks, I know a bad deal when I see one.

Not all bad.

I went to one dance in the local Glendale area. I found the age range a little higher than I was told. That said, there was a good DJ playing and a good mix of men and women in the room. I was one of the younger ones in the room. It did not help that even though I’m 47 I look like at most I’m in my mid 30’s. I actually had to show my drivers license to a woman or two to get them to believe I was close to their age. I know, I’m so cursed with a young look.

Not done yet.

This report is not done yet, I’m still looking into such things as speed dating, and checking out more Dating web sites. I’ll let you know what I find.

One other source.

The one other source I’ve not talked about is friends and acquaintances etc. Let your friends etc. know your looking to meet someone. They may just know that right person for you. That said, if you know someone for me, drop me a line at:

getalife@biznetonline.com

If you missed part one read it here:

http://www.biznetonline.com/03-01/dating.htm

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